There are many moving pieces when it comes to planning a wedding and it can get overwhelming at times, especially if you don’t have your family and loved ones close by for support and help. Many might say this is a blessing in disguise, after all you and your husband-to-be get to do what you want and make decisions without having too many opinions to handle. That is good in a way but at the same time this is such a unique opportunity to involve your family in celebrating the next chapter of your life and they will want to play a bigger part in all of this. Here are some ways on how to involve your family in planning a wedding long distance.
If you’re like me, you probably started collecting ideas for your dream wedding way before the perspective of getting engaged in real life (I mean, you didn’t want to let all those amazing ideas just pass by and run the risk of not remembering that perfect centerpiece when the moment actually came). Well, now that you are engaged, a simple and cool way to involve your family (and future family) in the wedding planning process is by inviting them to pin to your Wedding board! That will give them a better idea of what you’re envisioning for your big day, they’ll be able to add their ideas and feel like they are contributing, plus it will give you more time to work on other wedding details while your Pinterest fairies are doing the work for you there.
Ask for Help
It will not only mean a lot to them, but it will be special for you knowing that everyone contributed a little bit in making the big day happen. Don’t be afraid to be strategic and think with your fiancé who would like to do what, contribute how, etc. For example, I was set on designing my wedding invitations because I knew I needed to keep my wedding DIY projects realistic and that wouldn’t be too time consuming for me. After coming up with a couple of designs, I approached my future sister-in-law (who happens to be an amazing illustrator and designer) and told her I felt there was something missing. She took that burden right off my shoulders, connected me with another incredible artist who created this beautiful made-to-order watercolor illustration for the invites. I couldn’t be happier and I’m so glad I asked for help!
Delegate, delegate, delegate
Along the same lines of asking for help, there is no shame in delegating. For example, when you’re planning a wedding long distance, most likely not all of your family and friends from your hometown will be able to make it. If you have the time and the means, think about throwing a simple engagement party in your hometown to connect with those who won’t be able to be there on your wedding. When my fiancé and I thought about doing this, we also had in mind that this would be a great way to involve our family by asking them to plan the small celebration and get their party planning wishes fulfilled.
Facebook, text messaging, phone calls, Skype, FaceTime, WhatsApp, Snapchat… Nowadays it is easier than ever to stay connected with friends and family, so take your pick! Send pictures of what you’ve been picking out, keep them updated on wedding and honeymoon plans, vendor choices, etc. Of course you want some things to be a surprise, so it’s okay not to share everything. Most importantly, not all talk needs to be wedding talk. The wedding topic can be a nice ice breaker when it comes to talking to your fiancé’s family (especially if you haven’t met them in person yet) but take the opportunity to get to know them outside of the wedding planning world as well.